How to Choose an Executor for Your Will (and What They Do)

What the job involves, who's suited for it, and how to set them up for success.

By No Brainer Forms Team Updated 3 min read

Key Takeaways

  • An executor (called a personal representative in some states) is the person you name in your will to settle your estate after you die.
  • Their duties include filing the will with the court, gathering assets, paying debts and taxes, and distributing property to beneficiaries.
  • A good executor is trustworthy, organized, available and able to stay calm around family tension.
  • Always name an alternate, and ask your choices before naming them.
  • Some states restrict out-of-state executors or require a bond, so check your state’s rules if your choice lives elsewhere.

What does an executor do?

The executor is the person in charge of carrying out your will. It’s a real job that can take months:

  1. Locate the will and file it with the probate court
  2. Get appointed by the court and obtain official documents to act for the estate
  3. Notify beneficiaries, banks, government agencies and creditors
  4. Inventory and protect assets: secure the home, manage accounts, collect property
  5. Pay valid debts and final expenses, including funeral costs
  6. File final income tax returns, and estate tax returns if required
  7. Distribute property to beneficiaries according to the will
  8. Keep records and close the estate with the court

Executors are fiduciaries, meaning they must act honestly and in the estate’s best interests, not their own.

Who makes a good executor?

ChoiceProsWatch out for
Spouse or partnerKnows your wishes and financesMay be overwhelmed by grief; consider a co-executor
Adult childInvested in the outcome; knows the familyCan cause sibling tension if others feel left out
Sibling or close friendTrusted; may be more neutralAge, health and location
Professional (attorney, bank, trust company)Experienced and neutralCharges fees; less personal
Co-executorsShares the workloadMust agree on decisions, which can slow things down
Comparing common executor choices

Qualities to look for:

  • Trustworthy and fair, especially if beneficiaries might disagree
  • Organized and detail-oriented, since the job involves paperwork and deadlines
  • Available, with the time and, ideally, proximity to handle things
  • Financially responsible
  • Willing: always ask first

Executor vs. beneficiary vs. trustee

Your executor can also be a beneficiary; that’s very common. A trustee manages assets in a trust, sometimes for years. An executor’s job ends when the estate is settled. The same person can play more than one role. See will vs. trust.

Setting your executor up for success

  • Tell them where your will and important documents are kept
  • Keep a list of accounts, insurance policies, debts and digital logins
  • Record your funeral wishes somewhere easy to find
  • Keep beneficiary designations current to reduce what goes through probate; see how to avoid probate

Frequently asked questions

Can an executor also be a beneficiary?

Yes. It’s very common for a spouse or adult child to serve as executor while also inheriting under the will.

Is an executor paid?

Executors are usually entitled to reasonable compensation under state law or the terms of the will. Many family members waive it, especially if they’re also beneficiaries.

Can my executor live in another state?

Usually, but some states require out-of-state executors to be relatives, post a bond or appoint a local agent. Check your state’s rules.

What if my executor doesn’t want to serve?

They can decline. Your alternate executor then steps in. If no one named is available, the court appoints someone.

Who is executor if there’s no will?

The court appoints an administrator, usually a close relative, to perform the same duties. See what happens if you die without a will.

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This guide is general educational information written by the No Brainer Forms Team. It is not legal advice, and No Brainer Forms is not a law firm. Laws and signing requirements vary by state; for advice about your situation, talk to a licensed attorney in your state.